30 years old, my friend left from PetroChina.
The college entrance examination, a few large monopolies in. As a result, he chose the University of petroleum, professional counterpart, and a good plan for his future. When I did not graduate, there was an opportunity to be envied by the people. Later, the graduate student was read, and then it was successfully assigned to the work of PetroChina.
When everyone thought he had a good time, he suddenly heard the news of his resignation. He said the decision had been tied up for three years.
Everyone was shocked. Why don't such a good job be?
He said that people who do not know the truth will be admired by the big enterprises such as PetroChina Sinopec and mobile Unicom.
In fact, we only hear the sound of these large state-owned enterprises in the know a little, in different positions, the gap is very big.
Because there is no background, it can only be allocated to remote areas such as Karamay. Because there is no relation, there is no possibility of promotion without the grey income that has been made by people.
Most of the time, not just doing what the technical content of the work, studying hard learned knowledge without too much useless. The bitterest thing is, you know it may not change for a lifetime.
Others believe that monopoly enterprises are highly paid. They only know how much they earn. Others believe that jobs are easy and stable. They only know that they are superior leaders' preferential treatment and have nothing to do with the employees at the bottom.
Work hard work, day in and day out year after year, but had one can expect to be the head of a day.
Most of the time feel that life is dark, I do not know where the road is. Most of the time, the job for me is like chicken ribs, tasteless gesture.
Especially, in the heard of her former classmates quit entrepreneurship, heard that the school in time did better than themselves, because the air ow step quasi takeoff. The fluctuation of the heart is very big, often in the end should change a kind of life constantly self pull.
Sometimes I think I will quit when I bite my teeth and stamp on my feet. Life is not afraid to start from scratch, and I have abilities. There are always suitable places for me to find a career direction that can work hard. Maybe life has changed.
At this time, you will hear the surrounding sound, such as:
“ it's not easy to find a job now, and many people can't pay for it. ”
“ don't ask too much, at least the reputation is listening, and there is a certain social position. ”
“ no matter how stable it is, it feels unreliable to go to other places. “
“ the university has so many years now, if the resignation is not a whiteness, you are thirty, really willing to come back from the beginning? ”
And then fell into a new round of self - correction.
Finally, after three years of entanglement, he finally got through and left.
Because don't want this kind of lifeless and the color of life, do not want to an outsider but seemingly majestic trees and give chase outwardly strong but inwardly weak, a whole forest of opportunity.
This is the story of a brave choice.
It seems that it is just a matter of leaving job and changing jobs again, but for the 80 generation of thirty, it is really not a trivial matter. Its inner entanglement is in fear and ordinary people are hard to understand.
Many people like him when he was young, full of momentum, but more grew more timid. At about thirty, you even shrink back and fear change.
What's better to do with the resignation? If not, there are old and small, how life transition? Will the people around us look down on themselves? Is there still no stable work still going on in such a big age?
Zheng Yini of the new weekly wrote:
“ middle-aged full, from the times of intolerance, this is a not before feeling a huzuohuyou feeling, a kind of consolation, for raising on the responsibility of a life in the workplace and abused the powerlessness of innumerable twists and turns. ”
Yes, people are in middle age and often feel a dilemma.
Change the job, the wife may be unreliable, in case can not find the right, but also let the family follow the anxiety.
Instead of changing work, the wife will still spit the job, how do people make so much, but can't buy and buy themselves? How do you work so many years, or do not increase the salary increase?
Sometimes want to put their heart stuck to talk a lot, but no chance. A lot of words to the mouth, and they all swallowed back.
Because of fear of parents, fear of anxiety, fear of friends, even fear that they look down on their own vicious circle. So I prefer to choose a person to digest silently.
But only to know, those late night anxiety to insomnia, those who secretly hide in the shower room tears of the moment, how miserable.
After a lot of people drive home from work, stop the car and like to listen to the radio or music in the car, one after one, no reason, that is, do not want to go upstairs.
It's not a sweetheart who is not caring, a child is not cute, nor is there any special reason for grief. It is only involuntarily that he wants to shut himself in a closed little world.
Because here only oneself, because only in here, oneself is the complete, belong to own. Leave the car at home, and will become the needs of man of indomitable spirit.
Middle age in the dog day says that middle age is a piece of fireworks.
The reason for the ground is that the more the man grows up the more the burden. The more you grow up, the less you have the ability to try and wrong, and the courage to start from the beginning.
People in the family want to work hard.
We should strive to be the pride of the parents, and to be the example of the children. The wife is also completely snubbing.
The sweet burden of the family often has to give up a lot of ideals and hard scalp to do things that they don't like.
“ man to a middle-aged man, often feel lonely, because he opens his eyes, all around him, but no one he can rely on. ” the feeling is really the same as Eileen Chang's description.
Not a family.People are more anxious.
In either the laws to marry under fidgety or tangled, had played together buddy too fast, your life is prosaic.
Work and love is not a proud moment, but also afraid of being on the crown of the name of loser.
When the young can use the excuse, now is not good for all. No way no way to evade the argument, even their own feel failure.
House car ticket face, each of the fine lines again face deep and a middle-aged.
Young think life should have a poem and the distance between the life imperceptibly seemed only fuel a feather.
Originally, people really will grow with time and become indecisive with profound respect and humility.
The world is changing too fast, now who can think once Hanlaobaoshou a secure job, when there are absolutely empty. Once that will not change things overnight, all changed.
And young people than their lack of creativity and energy. And than their predecessors, lack of core competitiveness is not so difficult to replace.
In the work, many people face underachievement tangle.
Have a look down but great plan and noble ambition, will dispel the idea. I used to think everything there is hope, then feel everything has been decided.
Those lost, can not go back, circling in the brain. Each with a minute to waste a minute of life.
I want to resign entrepreneurship, and the lack of courage to go. The time in this tangle passes slowly a year over the past two years, he is still not changed.
So I especially admire those over thirty years also dare to start from scratch; admire those who work for several years to quit graduate school abroad to learn the English people; admire those in the sunset industry does not struggle without tweaking and leave those who admire those bold; can make decisions quickly people don't regret.
Even if not successful and how, at least not regret, at least according to their own ideas to try, choose. Change is not so terrible.
Greasy middle-aged people is popular, because most people are in the awkward age gave light impulses, lost the vitality of the soul, just carry a tired body burden.
In fact, the middle-aged can be like a cup of tea, also have to compromise.
When both sides are in a dilemma, one step, may find the direction. In a nice hobble when courage, step forward again, maybe life will be dense willow trees and bright flowers.
To the middle-aged people, the most important thing is to give yourself a little courage to change.
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